an object of chairty... how do you react?

Yesterday was a new experience for me.  I have sometimes given a stranger $10 or $20 to help them to get home, or pay some bill off. I do not make it a habit, I haven't that much money.   It is a 'sometimes' thing.  I weigh their need and my need to the extra amount in my wallet and act acordingly.  I didn't save their life and didn't sacrifice my own.  It is no big deal.

 

Yesterday a the grocery store I was watching my bill register more and more on the cash register and I only had $15.00 t0 spend.  My bill was already at 24.33 and I still had 5 pounds of potatoes to ring up.  I aplogized to the check out clerk and said don't ring this up. and take out the mayonaise and the pack of grapes. and the cake mix.  Something had cost me a lot more money than I had expected.  Still not quite enough and I had them take out the half gallon of juice I had put in the cart.  That should be enough.  Yep, $14.67  that will do it.  But the clerk shook her head and started putting the things back in my bag that I had originally ordered.  "Wait."  but she indicated the lady behind me.  A nice asian woman.  She had her credit card out and was agreeing to pay my final bill.

 

I did not know what to say.  "Sorry.  Christmas just cost me more than I expected and my cards are  maxed out.  I have to be real careful until January starts,"

 

"It's alright.  I'm glad to help out.  Please don't refuse.  It is something I need to do."

 

 I didn't know what to say.  I have just never been in that position before.  I tried to think how I would have liked some of my charity recipients to act with me.  "I just got caught unaware that I was too near out of food at home."

 

"Please don't worry about it," she said.  

"Well I really don't need all the things I have in the basket.  the cake mix was just a whim and I'm sure i could do without the mayonaise."  The poor cashier clerk was taking things back out of my bags again.  I was really getting confused.  Then the asian lady said.  "He paid for it before I give the clerk my card.  It's already paid for.  Not me.  HIM.'

 I saw anothe man about as old as I am but obviously well heeled.  He tipped his imaginary hat.  Now what could I say.  The clerk was putting things back in my bag.  I ended with profuse thanks all around and got out of the store fast.  I just didn't know what else to do.

 

 

 

 

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Comments (10)

  1. GoldenPig2012

    Oh, chuckle, sweetie…………….when you give to those when you can…………………does it matter to you why they are a bit short of cash? No, you just want to give. Now………………you were given what you gave. Suck it up. We are not always on the giving side of love. We are, believe it or not, on the getting side. Swallow your pride, be thankful and let them do for you as you’ve done for others. You wouldn’t want someone you’ve given to bitching about it or refusing it, would you? Yeah, simple.

    December 29, 2016
    1. TomasSISI

      I just couldn’t imagine how to react. Yes, I knew I wouldn’t want the one’s I’d given cash to, to start with bowing and grateful thanks. I’d just never figured on it before.

      December 29, 2016
      1. GoldenPig2012

        No shit………………so suck it up with grace. Do the best you can with what you’ve got. Thank the one who helps you. Duh. NOW, you can sort of understand how those whom you help feel. It’s never a black and white sum, babe. Do you really believe the ones you help have a clue how to deal with your help? Do you have that stereotype that they are anonymous lifelong beggars? Maybe you did, in a way. Get over it, now. Move on and keep helping and accepting help. It’s what we humans do.

        December 29, 2016
        1. TomasSISI

          No i didn’t think they were beggers who had to borrow from me. I just didn’t want the people at the store to think I was either. I just got caught short this month and would have made out alright putting a few things back until January to buy.

          December 29, 2016
  2. Dream_On

    I have found the kindness of strangers to be greater than family members . . . “some” family members. It most definitely is a humbling feeling.

    December 30, 2016
    1. TomasSISI

      You sound like Blanche du-what’s-her-name in Streetcar Named Desire. But I hear you loud and clear. Strangers ARE more likely to be kind than ‘some’ family members. I could do without “some” family members, they are not needed in my corner. They are ashamed of me, I guess. Things in the grocery store cost a lot more than I am used to paying.

      December 30, 2016
      1. Dream_On

        I’ve found that to be so since most of my family has passed away . . . strangers, acquaintances have shown many a kindness, a hug and encouraging words over extended family. I wonder why that is.

        December 31, 2016
  3. cjb321

    What a wonderful act of kindness that you will remember as you pass it along to others!

    December 30, 2016
    1. TomasSISI

      It is that. And I just had to write a post about it. All you can do is say Thanks and nod and be a gracious as you can in thanking as they are in giving help when needed.

      December 30, 2016
  4. Munkyman

    that’s exactly what you do.

    January 01, 2017